Life Coaching with Heidi

What is a Relationship Manual? It is an instruction guide we have for people in our lives about how we would like them to behave so we can feel good and be happy. We can have a manual for our spouses, children, siblings, parents, bosses.   Whenever we think someone should act differently chances are good you have a manual for them  We generally don’t tell the other person what’s in our manual, and we usually don’t even realize we have it or see the pain it causes us. We feel that the other person should just “know” what to do and how to treat us. While it may seem justified to have expectations of other people, it can be very damaging when your emotional happiness is directly tied to their behaving a certain way. Many people have manuals that stem from the belief that they would be happier if someone in their lives would change. This is a huge cause of suffering because they’re handing over the power of how they feel to someone else. What I te...

I would like to teach you about one of the tools I use to help my clients; It's called Story vs Fact .    A Story is what we tell ourselves about a circumstance that includes what happened and all the emotions, thoughts and feelings that we have around the circumstance. The story can be something that happened yesterday or it can be something that happened to you years ago that you keep telling over and over and over again so much that it becomes so ingrained you believe the story with every fiber of your being. But the FACTS are neutral items from the story that everyone can agree on. When we look at just the facts, without the thoughts, feelings & emotions, the facts have no effect on us. It’s not until we start thinking about the FACTS, and attaching meaning to the facts, that our feelings and emotions take us to places we don’t want to go. A very basic example would be – if you were to say ‘Work stresses me out” this is really a story T...

“Why?” is the most powerful question in life. It seems to be such an innocent little word, but it can really increase your consciousness if you let it. When you ask "Why?", you have to go into your mind and find the meaning and the intention that drives you.  Most people have never done this before. Many of us are on autopilot, playing out the programming of our childhoods without questioning it. We do what we think we should do based on what we were told as children, and we have never evaluated whether it still applies or not. A good example of this is you may have been told as a child to 'clean your plate' by an adult.  Our parents wanted to make sure we were getting the nutrition we needed to grow.  But are you still cleaning your plate today?  Even when you're no longer hungry? That is a thought that has become a belief and may not be serving you today. If you want to stop running on autopilot, the next time you find yourself doing somet...

When we talk about weight loss we need to consider the difference between the False Pleasure of overeating and the instant gratification it gives us, versus the Well Being of losing the weight and getting to our goal. All False Pleasures give us instant gratification.  They are what we do when we know we shouldn't.  False Pleasures cost us our health in the long run. With weight loss, the feeling of deprivation is something we struggle with and often we give into it, only to beat ourselves up later, or tomorrow, because now we have to start over again. When we are willing to give up False Pleasures for Well Being, it opens us up to be  more available to experience the real pleasures in life. Constraining your drinking makes you more alert and available.  Constraining your spending helps you save and gives you more money for the things that are really important.  Constraining your eating makes you feel better & healthier.  I do...

Let's talk about your body.  Do you love it?  Do you hate it?  I'm here to tell you that if you don't like the body you're in because it is storing fat, from bad food choices you've made in the past, it will be next to impossible to get your body to release that fat if you hate your body. As my Life Coach, Brooke Castillo taught me, Nothing positive comes from negative thoughts & emotions. If you are trying to lose weight and change your body, you have to love your body, appreciate your body, where it is right now.  Think of it like this… If you had a friend that wanted you to do something you weren't sure of, would you be more likely to do it if your friend was nice to you, gave you compliments, treated you with kindness OR if they yelled at you, told you how ugly & fat you were and told you they hated you??? Is that what you are doing to your body? If you treat your body, and therefore yourself, with love, kindness ...

Which type of eating do you do on a regular basis? I help my clients understand the 4 different types of eating, Fog Eating, Storm Eating, Fuel Eating, and Joy Eating, and how they are keeping them from releasing their body fat. FUEL EATING  this kind of eating gives your body the nutrients it needs. You consciously plan out what you will eat and know ahead of time what your meals will be. And you stick to your menus and don't have to worry about making bad decisions in the moment. JOY EATING is when you eat something you love to eat and actually taste it. When you have your Joy Eat you want to pay attention to every bite, savor the taste & the texture – try moaning and slowly chewing to really get the full enjoyment from your food. This is usually one or two small treats per week. The rule with Joy Eating is that you must enjoy each bite.  You MUST plan your Joy Eats at least 24 hours ahead of time.  FOG EATING is when you are eating wi...

Today is Saturday and the weather was beautiful today.  We had a neighborhood yard sale today and it was a lot of fun and a lot of work and my body aches from head to toe.  That being said my blog today will be brief... I remember my dad having me read the book ' The Power of Positive Thinking ' by Norman Vincent Peale when I was barely out of high school and it had a profound impact on my life, though I didn't realize it at the time. Thinking back on that now it's amazing how changing your negative thoughts to positive thoughts can change the results in your life. Who knew I would grow up to be a Life Coach and now I get to help people change their thoughts so they can change the results they get in their life. As a Life Coach, I help you see how your thoughts create the results you are getting, good & bad.  If you would like to learn how, sign up for a free call with me , and let's talk about what you want to change in your life and how to g...